Requiescat in Pace–Thomas Joseph Maleady II
Requiescat in Pace
Thomas Joseph Maleady II, born July 27, 1933, died June 17, 2007
This morning at 6:50 a.m. Pacific coast time, my half-brother, nicknamed Macho by his Mexican nannies (at the time Daddy was a US diplomat assigned to Mexico with his Cuban-Costa Rican wife, Emma) because of his dark skin and wavy hair, joined Daddy and Charlie, my other half-brother who died of cancer in 1982.
Macho died in Joyce’s arms, his wife of 40+ years…. I remember Joyce visiting when I was in first or second grade, and that was 42 years ago. He has been in “iffy” health for years, but the aneurism near his one barely-functioning kidney (which has been beyond ready-to-blow stage for at least a year) had begun to leak; he miraculously survived the emergency surgery last Saturday, but has been sliding downhill since Monday. We are blessed that he had good care, good doctors, has been on meds to alleviate pain and anxiety this past week, and a good wife to care for him.
Here is a picture of Daddy (on the left), Macho and Joyce in 1986 (not sure where the Lodge is!):
and here is my favorite picture of Daddy and the three of us, his kids… I’ve shared this before but here it is again: the one I like to think of as “three gangsters and a little girl”: Left to right it is Macho (known to friends and co-workers as Tom, TomJ, or just “T”), Daddy, and Charlie (Chuck to everyone outside of the family) and me, down in front in the middle:
I told Joyce when she called this morning with the news that I know what he’s doing…he’s up there telling jokes with Charlie and the three of them are laughing up a gale! I’ll miss the sound of his voice the most….
June 17th, 2007 at 8:57 am
So sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers. May you find peace and comfort at this time.
June 17th, 2007 at 9:07 am
You’ll always hear their laughs Sarah, memories are forever.
Hugs!
Fitzy
June 18th, 2007 at 6:52 am
Sarah & Joyce – my thoughts are with both of you.
June 18th, 2007 at 10:31 am
So sorry, Sarah. What charming pictures and memories you will have forever. Thanks for sharing them with us.
June 19th, 2007 at 3:54 am
such lovely thoughts . Sad for you and your family and my condolences to all of you
June 19th, 2007 at 12:34 pm
I am so sorry to hear this news Sarah. You have my deepest sympathy.
June 19th, 2007 at 3:08 pm
Deepest sympathy for your sad loss.
Maggie
March 9th, 2008 at 1:35 pm
Sarah,
I occasionally look up some of my “old friends” — people who have had a permanent place in my life and today 3/9/2008, this brought me to you. I knew Tom & Joyce before they married – Joyce & I were roommates in the early 60’s in San Francisco. Please convey to her somehow that I often remember those days; I live in NM and get to Calif often. I would love to hear from her. So sorry to hear of Tom’s passing in ’07. Much love to Joyce and if she is inclined, I would love to hear from her.
Nancy Robbins /505-466-1780 /nnrobnz@gmail.com